When “I Don’t Know” Feels Like the Only Truth

When “I Don’t Know” Feels Like the Only Truth

“I don’t know.”
“I just don’t know…”

It’s something I hear so often from clients—those moments when life feels heavy, confusing, and uncertain. It might sound like:

“I don’t know what I feel.”
“I don’t know what to do next.”
“I just don’t know…”

And if that’s where you are right now, please know—you’re not alone.

When we’re overwhelmed or in emotional pain, clarity can seem completely out of reach. The mind scrambles to find answers, and when they don’t come, we default to “I don’t know.” It’s not failure—it’s a reflection of being maxed out, of carrying too much.

But here’s something gentle to consider:

What do you know, right now?

Even if it feels small or obvious—what truths can you find in this moment?

  • You’re breathing.

  • The ground is under your feet.

  • You’re reading this right now, seeking support.

  • Maybe you know the name of someone who cares about you.

  • Maybe you know that today is hard, and that’s okay to admit.

This simple shift—from what you don’t know, to what you do—can help you feel more anchored. It’s not about solving everything. It’s about finding a foothold, a place to stand when everything else feels unstable.

So next time you hear yourself say, “I don’t know,” pause.

Ask gently: What do I know? What can I hold onto right now?

Notice if even a small shift happens in your body or your mind.
Notice that you’re still here.
Notice that you’re doing the best you can—and that is enough.

You’re not alone.
You can do this.
And that… you do know.

Mindfulness – What is it?

Mindfulness: More Than Just a Buzzword

These days, it feels like mindfulness is everywhere. From podcasts and books to workplace wellness programs and social media, the term gets used a lot. But what does it really mean?

At its core, mindfulness is beautifully simple.

In the words of Jon Kabat-Zinn, a pioneer in the field:

“Mindfulness is paying attention, with intention, to the present moment, without judgment but with an attitude of curiosity and compassion.”

That’s it.
No complicated techniques. No special equipment. Just you, fully present.

When we strip it back, mindfulness is about tuning in to the only real moment we ever truly have: this one.

By gently noticing what our senses are experiencing—what we can see, hear, smell, touch, or taste—we become anchored in the now. This kind of presence has real, tangible benefits:

  • We feel more grounded and calm.

  • We connect more deeply with ourselves.

  • We grow in resilience, learning to respond rather than react.

  • And, simply put, we cope better with life.

It’s not about perfection. It’s about practice—and compassion toward ourselves along the way.

So, will you give mindfulness a try?

Just take a moment.
Pause.
Breathe.
And gently notice—what are your senses picking up, right now?

That’s mindfulness. And it might be just the grounding moment you need today.

Autobiography in Five Short Chapters by Portia Nelson

Chapter I
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost… I am hopeless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

Chapter II
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in this same place.
But it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

 Chapter III
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it there.
I still fall in… it’s a habit… but,
my eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

 Chapter IV
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

Chapter V
I walk down another street.