When “I Don’t Know” Feels Like the Only Truth
“I don’t know.”
“I just don’t know…”
It’s something I hear so often from clients—those moments when life feels heavy, confusing, and uncertain. It might sound like:
“I don’t know what I feel.”
“I don’t know what to do next.”
“I just don’t know…”
And if that’s where you are right now, please know—you’re not alone.
When we’re overwhelmed or in emotional pain, clarity can seem completely out of reach. The mind scrambles to find answers, and when they don’t come, we default to “I don’t know.” It’s not failure—it’s a reflection of being maxed out, of carrying too much.
But here’s something gentle to consider:
What do you know, right now?
Even if it feels small or obvious—what truths can you find in this moment?
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You’re breathing.
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The ground is under your feet.
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You’re reading this right now, seeking support.
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Maybe you know the name of someone who cares about you.
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Maybe you know that today is hard, and that’s okay to admit.
This simple shift—from what you don’t know, to what you do—can help you feel more anchored. It’s not about solving everything. It’s about finding a foothold, a place to stand when everything else feels unstable.
So next time you hear yourself say, “I don’t know,” pause.
Ask gently: What do I know? What can I hold onto right now?
Notice if even a small shift happens in your body or your mind.
Notice that you’re still here.
Notice that you’re doing the best you can—and that is enough.
You’re not alone.
You can do this.
And that… you do know.